Detaching from where you think you should be in life
I am going to share with you my top 3 ways to live mindfully, to embrace the present moment and ditch the need to be at a certain stage in life, at a certain time. This has changed my life in so many ways and I want you do experience this freedom too.
Each day we are exposed to numerous messages suggesting we should be at this or that stage in life in order to be successful. We “should” have a partner, a house, a qualification, a driver’s license or a well-paid job, and the list goes on. Whatever it may be for you, no doubt you would have experienced this external pressure at some stage of your life whether that be from social media, parents, friends, or family. You may even place these expectations on yourself and beat yourself up when you don’t reach them fast enough.
Thoughts might go through your head like “when I get this ill be happy” or “once this happens life will be better”.
Goals are great and having a drive-in life is definitely going to take you far, but one important thing to realise is, living in the future and worrying about where you should be all of the time takes you out of the present moment. It doesn’t allow you to be grateful for what you already have in life. Your happiness will not come with material things or reaching that next milestone.
Happiness comes from being completely present in the current moment. Absorbing what is already around you and being truly grateful for that.
Once we are present and grateful for what we already have we are coming from a place of abundance rather than lack. We are coming from a place where we are happy with where we are at, anything else that comes into our life from here is a bonus. Please don’t forget about timing, and know that things will come into your life as they are meant to. Especially when we are in a place of content.
Too often we want things too quickly, we look for relationships instead of letting them come to us. It is not until we are content within ourselves that the right relationships come along, we are able to think more clearly and allow only the best into our lives. You do not need to be at a certain place at a specific age or time in your life.
It is completely up to you what you do with your life. There is no right time for anyone as we are all on completely different paths. What may work for someone might not work for you and that is completely fine.
Being present can be a journey at times, especially if we have been living in the future for most of our lives. I know for me initially I struggled a lot. I struggled to see the good in my current situation and be content with the present moment when there is so much I was looking forward to in the future.
This was especially true for me when I had times where I had a lot of things to look forward to (holidays, food, seeing my family, Christmas)…I couldn’t wait to be experiencing the next exciting thing knowing what adventures lay ahead of me but this often meant swapping out the happiness that I could have felt in that exact moment for happiness that didn’t even exist yet…
There are a few key routines I have in place now to keep me grounded and in the present moment and I want to share them with you today in hopes to transform your life like I have mine.
When was the last time you sat down and thought about the things you love about your life? I practice gratitude every single morning when I wake up, sometimes in the car or just whenever it comes to mind.
Our minds cannot focus on being grateful and sad at the same time so while we are practising gratitude we changing our present state and lifting our vibration. Often clients will say to me, I can’t think of anything and this can be normal when you first practice gratitude so I always start with a few examples of my own.
- Waking up every early every morning and walking outside hearing the birds sing and seeing the sunrise
- A comfortable bed to sleep on
- Being alive
- Being blessed to live in a beautiful, safe country
Anxiety and stress often come from thinking too far in the future, worrying about the unknown. A powerful way to eliminate these things is to focus on where you are at right now. Take each day as it comes and know everything will work out just the way it is meant to. It has taken me a while to get here and a lot of self-healing but I now live life knowing that the universe has my back, everything is going to work out just as it is meant to. If I am ever in a situation where I feel worried I repeat to myself I am loved and I am safe.
You will never be at this exact moment again in your life. Really appreciate that because you only get to live this moment once.
I love the quote:
Comparison is the thief of joy.
How can you ever be happy and content within yourself when you are continuously comparing your life to others? That is their life, it is none of your business what is going on with them. It is time to take full responsibility for what is going on with you and be truly grateful for where you are. How lucky are you to be on your own path?
You can literally do whatever you like with your life, that is awesome! There is no point comparing to others when you have the ability within you to do or be whoever you like. No one is you, and that is your superpower.
I hope this blog has helped you in some way!
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