How to train your subconscious mind

The power of your subconscious mind goes further than you might think.

I’m sure you’ll agree with me when I say our brains are extremely complicated.

However, you might be surprised by how much control we actually have over its programming.

Before I dive into that:

Let’s first take a moment to just consider the fact that your subconscious mind is like a huge memory bank. Its capacity is virtually unlimited and it permanently stores everything that ever happens to you.


Your subconscious mind’s job is to store and retrieve data. 

Its job is to ensure that you respond exactly the way you are programmed. Your subconscious mind makes everything you say and do fit a pattern consistent with your self-concept, your “master program.”

This is why repeating positive affirmations are so effective — you can actually reprogram your own thought patterns by affirming positive sentences to yourself.

This is why reading inspirational quotes, for example, has an impact on people who are committed to positive thinking. By focusing your thoughts on uplifting ideas, your subconscious will begin to perform a positive pattern in your way of thinking and your outlook on life.

Your subconscious mind is influenced. It does not think or reason independently; it simply obeys the commands it receives from your conscious mind.

I great way to look at this is to see your conscious mind as the gardener, planting seeds and see your subconscious mind as the garden, or fertile soil, in which the seeds develop and grow.

This is another reason why adopting the power of positive thinking is important to the foundation of your entire thought process.

Your conscious mind commands and your subconscious mind obeys.

Your subconscious mind is an unquestioning servant that works day and night to make sure that your behaviour fits a pattern consistent with your emotionalized thoughts, hopes, and desires.

Your subconscious mind grows either flowers or weeds in the garden of your life, whichever you plant by the mental equivalents you create.

Your subconscious mind keeps you thinking and acting in a manner consistent with what you have done and said in the past.

Your subconscious mind causes you to feel emotionally and physically uncomfortable whenever you attempt to do anything new or different or to change any of your established patterns of behaviour.

The sense of fear and discomfort are psychological signs that your subconscious has been activated. But it’s been working to establish those behaviour patterns in the background long before you’ll ever notice the fear and discomfort.

Your subconscious mind is the gatekeeper of your comfort zone.

You can feel your subconscious pulling you back toward your comfort zone each time you try something new. Even thinking about doing something different from what you’re used to will make you feel tense and uneasy.

I know you know what I’m talking about…!

13 ways to start training your subconscious mind

1. Be willing to see the possibility of change.

The first step in creating massive change in your life is not actually believing that it’s possible, it’s being willing to see if it is possible.

You are not going to be able to jump from being a complete sceptic to a wholehearted believer with a couple of inspirational quotes.

For example, if you hate your body and would rather pluck each of your eyelashes out one by one other than look at yourself naked, you can’t go from that to loving your body overnight.

You would first start by actually wanting to love your body – somehow – even if you have no freakin clue how. And then being open to the possibility that you could love your body.

So basically, creating the possibility that one-day’ blank’ could happen… that’s what will change your life.

2. Give yourself permission to be successful.

Instead of repeating the same old narrative of believing you’ll be happy once you’re 10 pounds, one promotion and two life events down-the-line, work on changing your inner monologue to: “I allow my life to be good.”

Give yourself permission to be happy and successful, and not feel guilty about it. If your subconscious mind believes that being successful is selfish or corrupt somehow, of course, you’re not going to do what you need to do to live the life you want to live.

Instead, give yourself permission to step into a whole, happy, healthy, grounded and meaningful existence. Self-care and self-love practices all help around this.

3. Don’t allow other people’s fears to affect you.

The way people respond to news of your success will tell you how they are really doing in their lives.

If you announce your engagement, people who are in happy marriages will be elated for you. People who are in unhappy marriages will warn you that it is difficult and that you should enjoy your remaining time as “single” individuals.

The point is that other people’s fears are always projections of their own situations internally and externally. They have nothing to do with what you are or aren’t capable of.

4. Surround yourself with positive things.

Keep a bottle of champagne in the fridge. Keep a posh box of chocolates somewhere secret – knowing that you can indulge when you plan in some ‘me’ time.

Change your morning alarm on your phone to read the message: “CONGRATULATIONS!!!” Make sure that the item you see and touch in your house and where you spend most of your time brings you positivity and hopefulness.

Keep an inspirational note on a post-it next to your computer. Unfollow people who make you feel bad about yourself and follow those who are constantly posting motivational messages and interesting ideas. Make your newsfeed a place that can help and encourage your growth, instead of making you feel unworthy.

5. Speak your success in the present tense, not in the future.

Obviously you shouldn’t say things like “Trust me, I’m a doctor” if you’re not! But do start speaking about what it is you want out of life, not in the context that you will one day seek it, but that you are already living it.

Instead of saying: “I hope to do that one day,” say, “I am planning how to do that now.”

Instead of thinking: “I will be happy when I meet the man of my dreams” think, “I am completely capable of being happy right here and right now, I don’t need a man to make me happy.”

6. Create a vision board and a vision practice.

Being able to imagine what it is you want out of your life is absolutely essential for creating it because if you don’t know where you’re going, you won’t know which way to go.

When you have a crystal clear image in your mind for what it is you want, you are then able to start planing and creating it.

If you are still hazy or torn between what you want, you won’t be capable of taking real, meaningful action toward anything.

Creating a vision board or a vision box full of your hopes and dreams and visiting it every day is a great way to visualize.

7. Identify your resistance. 

When our subconscious minds hold us back from pursuing something that we love, it is because we are holding a conflicting belief about it.

To identify your resistance, question yourself.

Ask yourself:

“Why do I feel better when I procrastinate?”

“Could getting what I really want actually put me in a place that makes me feel more vulnerable than ever?”

Find a way to meet those needs before you proceed.

8. Have a master life plan.

Forget 5 or even 10-year plans; so many changes over time it’s nearly impossible to set goals that you’ll be able to keep. Most likely, new or even better opportunities will become available to you along the way.

Instead, have a master plan. Identify your core values and motivations. Ask yourself what is the ultimate goal of what you want to accomplish whilst you’re alive; imagine the kind of legacy you want to leave.

Once you have your Big Picture values identified, you can make decisions for the long-term that align with your true self.

9. Start a gratitude journal.

The best way to start putting yourself in a headspace of “having” rather than “wanting” is to begin a gratitude practice.

By expressing thanks for all that you do have, you shift your mindset from being hungry for change to feeling satisfied with where you are at.

Nothing magnetizes abundance to you like gratitude. There’s a saying that once you believe you have enough, you are open to receiving more and more and more. That is undoubtedly true.

10. Start asking for what you want, even if you know you won’t get it. 

If someone asks you to do a project, ask for the amount of money you truly want to earn for it.

If your goal is to get a promotion in your current job, sit down with your manager and make your intentions known.

Reach out to brands and people that you want to work with. Start asking for what you want, even if you have no reason to believe that anyone will actually give you any of those things. 

Eventually, they will. Plus you’ll build up your resilience to being told no and you will become fearless!

11. Release your attachment to the “how.”

Your job is to identify the what, not the how. The how will come to you along the way as soon as you take some action.

The point is that life will always surprise you with how things come to fruition. Instead of being obsessively attached to every little detail working out the way you think it should, be open to potential and possibility, even if it’s something you never imagined before.

The universe is rigged in your favour and will give you everything you need to achieve your vision. All you need to do is to belief, have faith and to take action on the signs (I like to call them Universal Memos) that will be given to you along the way.

12. Surround yourself with a positive tribe.

Start spending time with people who are positive, ambitious, supportive and creative.

If you’re hanging out every weekend with people who are unhappy with their lives, constantly moaning about their partner and their job, you aren’t going to receive an abundance of support if you try to break free and do your own thing.

Remember that you truly become who you spend the most time with, so choose wisely.

13. Fill your “dead air” time with affirmation and motivation. 

When you’re on your way to work each morning, listen to an audiobook or podcast. While you’re doing the dishes or walking the dog, tune into something that relates to your goals.

Infuse your life with as much affirmation and motivation as possible. You may need to hear the lessons more than once, but they will seep into your brain over time, and eventually, you will find yourself acting on wisdom received from those who are where you want to be.

If you liked this blog please comment and share with someone who needs to see it – it really helps me to help others and I appreciate you!

Would you like help with letting go of your limiting beliefs and achieving your dreams and desires? I can help you with this – it’s what I focus on mainly with my clients – mindset baby!

Arrange a free call below…


Latest podcasts

Nourish yourself with weekly food freedom & body love yumminess

Served directly to your inbox

More podcasts you'll love

When I first heard about the concept of listening to your body and relying on it to tell you what and how much to eat,
I’ve thoroughly enjoyed writing this episode for you my loves! I share my personal experience of my journey to body love. My clients often go Welcome to another special edition of my Mini Client Interview Series! I have Cally with me today who is my previous client and self-love

Nourish yourself with weekly
food freedom & body love yumminess

Served directly to your inbox

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *