Body Love Binge Solo Episode – But What About People in Very Large Bodies?

In this powerful solo episode, I tackle the question that stops so many people from embracing unrestricted eating: “But what about people in very large bodies?” I address the fear, the stigma, the medical bias, and the truth about health at every size. This episode is essential for anyone who’s terrified of weight gain, anyone living in a larger body, and anyone who’s been told they’re “too fat” to eat freely.

Victoria Kleinsman (00:01.666)
Hello. It feels so good to be doing a solo episode and chatting with you loves. Obviously I love doing guest episodes so much, but I’ve really missed just being here in my own energy, thinking of you and just sharing and chatting. And obviously I have a bit of a plan of what I’m going to say to provide as much value as possible, but yeah, it just feels really good to be back doing solo episodes again. So.

Here we go. You will already know the title of this episode. But I mean, I had so many different title ideas for this episode, but I ended up with, as you know, but what about people in very large bodies? I’ve had this question asked to me in different ways throughout the years, and I planned on adding like a whole section in the modules within my group coaching program to share what

my take is on this and when I say but what about people in very large bodies of course people are asking what about people who are morbidly obese like can they really just eat with freedom like isn’t that irresponsible or unhealthy and all the things and won’t I end up like that if I just keep eating if it’s what I want to keep doing I’m going to do my best to address all of that today so let me just move some things around on my screen for it to make sense to me cool

So maybe you have read about unrestricted eating, know about unrestricted eating in recovery, and your brain is screaming and asking the question over and over again, but what about people who are really fat? And when I say fat, I use it as a descriptor word, not as a negative connotation as society does. But what about people who are really fat? What about, and I hate this quote, the term morbidly obese, surely that they can’t just eat whatever they want in recovery?

And I get it, because this question, it stops so many people. It can hinder so many people, whether those people are fat or not. It can hinder them from truly letting go and embracing the unrestricted eating and the mental hunger. And it is also the fear that can keep you stuck in the restrict, binge, purge, or no purge cycle. It’s the voice of diet culture is of course bred and born from fear. And it’s the voice that’s like,

Victoria Kleinsman (02:29.33)
maybe you’re the one exception to the rule, maybe because you have a genetic line of fat people or a genetic line of being in very large bodies that this eating unrestrictedly thing just can’t work for you. So let’s talk about this properly without the bullshit. again, I’m going to explain everything from my professional opinion and any questions you have about what I’m going to share, then please send them to me.

There’s actually a form where you can send a question directly for the podcast on my Instagram stories and also at the bottom of every email that I send. Should be anyway. Well, the question itself, but what about really fat people is the problem because we need to examine why this question exists in the first place, especially around morbidly obese. The term, quote, morbidly obese is medical terminology. It’s designed

to pathologize fat bodies. It literally means diseased fatness. It’s like as if existing in a larger body itself is a disease state, and that’s not true. The language is intentionally fear-based. It’s designed to make you believe that fat equals death, ultimately. But here’s what we do know, health exists at every size, full stop. You would have heard me talk about this before.

Reagan Chastain, for example, is an extremely fat, morbidly obese person who runs ultramarathons. So that’s just one example. The research linking weight to health outcomes, it’s correlational, not causational, and that’s a big difference. So what we’re actually seeing is the impact of weight cycling, which is yo-yo dieting, which can have an effect on metabolic health negatively.

It’s weight stigma and discrimination causing chronic stress. This is someone who is deemed as morbidly obese. This is what might be happening. Weight cycling, yo-yo dieting, the weight stigma, the discrimination, which causes chronic stress and shame, which therefore usually leads to more eating for emotional support. Healthcare bias leading to delayed diagnosis and treatment for someone’s body size, which is fucked up.

Victoria Kleinsman (04:55.498)
and socio-economic factors that influence both weight and health access. So how wealthy you are, how far up you are in the social economic ladder. So when you control for these factors, the correlation between weight and health largely disappears. Because the thing is, and I say this over and over again throughout my content, your body knows what it’s doing. Now,

What diet culture doesn’t want you to know is your body has a set point weight range where it functions optimally for you. Your unique set point weight range is yours. It’s not, mean genetics influence it, yes, but it is unique to you. This isn’t the weight you think you should be. For most, it’s not the weight you prefer to be. It’s not the weight you were when you were 18 or 16. It’s not the weight Instagram tells you is acceptable.

It’s the way your body, your unique, incredible body naturally settles at when, this is important, when you eat with intuition. So I don’t call it intuitive eating, I call it intuition eating. And you’re able to eat with intuition when you have a normal, peaceful, free and joyous relationship to food.

and to pleasure and to yourself and to your body. It’s yeah, listening to your body, eating when you’re hungry, stopping when you’re full if that feels good, and simply eating when you’re full because it feels good to keep eating. That’s okay too. It’s moving your body joyfully, not compulsively in a way that feels right and good for you.

It’s managing stress in ways that support you and are taking care of yourself and not harming yourself. It’s sleeping adequately, getting enough sleep. And it’s underlying, it’s addressing the underlying trauma, which is a biggie. Because for some people, that set point is a larger body and that’s not a problem, that needs to be solved. So I had no idea what my set point was because I’ve been dieting since the age of nine.

Victoria Kleinsman (07:16.77)
So genetically I had an idea because I’d look at my family and my grandma and my grandma’s grandma from asking questions and things. And so my genetic line wasn’t considered obese, but it wasn’t considered thin either. It’s just kind of naturally a medium sized body. I have a very similar shape to my mom. So I kind of guessed where I would end up, but I had no idea, especially because my hunger was…

insane and I was ravenous and I was thought I was addicted to chocolate and I was obsessed with sweet stuff and I thought that I’d forever just get keep getting bigger and bigger and I didn’t and I still eat exactly what I want when I want as much as I want. So just to recap what I’ve said you you will naturally authentically reach your set point weight when you stop trying to control your food and your body.

when you have a naturally free, peaceful, joyous and healthy relationship to food and to yourself, and you’ve addressed underlying trauma and you regulate your emotions and all that good stuff, which is why it’s a journey. You can’t force your body to be at its set point. You have to work with it, not against it. But what restriction actually does to any size body, larger bodies, smaller bodies, whatever it is, physically,

Your metabolism slows down to conserve energy because human beings do not bide well doing restrictive behaviors, we don’t bide well in restriction. Your body thinks it’s a famine. Your body increases hunger hormones, so ghrelin, and decreases fullness hormones, leptin. You lose muscle mass, that is a fact, making it harder to regulate blood sugar. Your body becomes more efficient at storing fat as energy.

and you trigger the famine response, making your body hold on to weight even more desperately. The only way that this doesn’t happen is if someone has the genetics for anorexia. This will happen eventually, but you can move past this, so don’t panic too much. If someone has the genetics for anorexia, yes, their metabolism slows down and all these things, but when the migration response is switched on,

Victoria Kleinsman (09:34.634)
you have a biological need to eat less and move more. So that’s another story altogether, which I’ve talked about in my podcast. If you want me to talk more about that, then I’ll do a whole episode about it. But this is what I’m sharing now. This is relevant to those in anorexia recovery too, because you’re also a human. So when that genetic migration response is switched off, this will affect you too. So just to recap physically,

restriction affects us by slowing down metabolism, increasing hunger hormones and decreasing fullness hormones, hence extreme hunger in our extra recovery. In any eating disorder recovery, you feel like you’re gonna eat forever, even if you’re really physically full, you’re still hungry, this is why. You lose muscle mass, and that’s why some people who are very thin actually have trouble with their blood sugar from lifestyle and they’re not even in a fat body because…

If they’ve got less muscle mass, it makes it harder to regulate blood sugar. Your body becomes more efficient at storing fat. Mine definitely did in recovery. It onto everything that I gave it. Let me just put my phone on, do not disturb. My lovely mom is messaging me, do not disturb. Your body becomes, I’ve said that, you trigger the pharma response, making your body hold on to weight even more desperately. Mentally, I’m sure you know all of these, food obsession intensifies.

Cognitive function decreases, you can’t think straight when you’re fucking starving, period. Decision making becomes impaired. The binge restrict cycle deepens if you don’t have the genetics for anorexia. Emotionally, shame spiral increases, self-worth becomes tied to the number on the scale. You disconnect further from your body’s signals. Emotional eating increases because you’re using food to cope with the pain of restriction.

And that’s actually a biologically normal response to restriction, all of those things, because restriction is not good for us in any way. So when someone asks, but what about people in very large bodies? My answer is, especially people in very large bodies need unrestricted eating. Your body will fight like hell to defend its set point. And this works both ways. It doesn’t care what society thinks.

Victoria Kleinsman (11:56.246)
It doesn’t care what your doctor thinks. It doesn’t care what you think. It cares about keeping you alive and thriving. So when you’ve been restricting, and remember restriction can be mental, physical, or emotional, not only physical, your body may need to overshoot its natural set point, which is what happened to me, temporarily to repair metabolic damage.

because your metabolism will not be broken forever, by the way. You can’t break your metabolism. You can fuck it up in restriction and then your body sorts it all out and repairs itself if you keep allowing food in any amount you want it. So your body can overshoot, they call it overshoot, from its natural set point to repair metabolic damage, restore hormone balance. Hormones are carried in adipose tissue, which is fat tissue. If you’re not eating…

enough fat or if you don’t have adequate fat on your body, depending on what your body needs to do all its hormonal business that it does, you need that hormonally to, for your hormones to work naturally as they should, but also to bring your body back into balance hormonally. So you need extra fat to support that hormone regulation. Your body might overshoot to rebuild troughs that food will consistently be available and to heal the psychological damage of deprivation.

So again, your body knows what it’s doing. It’s not fucking you over on purpose. It’s not making you gain all this weight just to piss you off. No, it’s doing all of these things for a very clever and smart reason. This might mean weight gain. Obviously it means weight gain. For some people, significant weight gain. And here’s the thing that you do need to hear. That weight gain is part of your healing. It’s crucial for your healing, both physically and mentally and emotionally.

your body is not out of control. It’s doing exactly what it needs to do to recover from the trauma of restriction because trauma restriction is trauma. What can also be happening with people in very large bodies is that the body can use weight. It can use adipose tissue fat as protection emotionally because fat is a protective layer physically.

Victoria Kleinsman (14:15.234)
But again, the body’s very smart. It can also use it emotionally to protect you. So this doesn’t get talked about actually much from what I know anyway in recovery spaces. Adipose tissue body fat can be a form of protection against past trauma. Your body is brilliant, as I keep saying. It’s designed to keep you safe and thriving and alive. And sometimes, especially when you’ve experienced trauma, sexual abuse, this is common with,

physical violence, emotional neglect, boundary violations, your body learns that being smaller, being more visible, being sexually desirable, or taking up less space isn’t safe. So it creates a buffer, a layer of protection, a way to feel less vulnerable in a world that has hurt you. This isn’t conscious, by the way. This is all unconscious. You didn’t just sit down one day.

and decide I’m going to gain weight to feel safer. Your nervous system made that decision for you on a cellular level as a survival mechanism. And here’s what’s absolutely crucial to understand. Until your body feels genuinely safe to let go of that protection, it will hold onto it. No amount of restriction, exercise or willpower will override your nervous system’s assessment of safety.

is the same that goes for those in anorexia that is classed as atypical anorexia who very much have anorexia but don’t have the standard, typical, stereotypical skeleton body. This is why you can be, quote unquote, doing everything you think you should be doing, eating perfectly, exercising religiously, and your body still won’t budge. It’s not being stubborn, it’s protecting you. Like I said, your body cares so much about you.

This is also why weight loss through restriction is often followed by rapid regain. Your body perceives the weight loss as a threat to your safety and fights to restore the protection it believes you need on a nervous system, emotional level. So recovery isn’t just about feeding your body, it’s about healing the underlying trauma that made your body feel it needed that protection in the first place.

Victoria Kleinsman (16:41.696)
It’s about doing the nervous system work, the trauma healing, the inner child work that helps your body understand you’re safe now. It’s okay to let go and release, to come back to your natural, healthy, safe set point weight without the emotional stuff that the body’s trying to protect you from. And sometimes even when you do that deeper work, your body might choose to stay in a larger form.

because that’s actually your set point. Maybe the protection becomes your natural state and that’s okay too, because it is what it is. And again, your body knows what it’s doing. This is blind trust that you need to practice surrendering to. The point isn’t to manipulate your body into letting go of weight. You can’t do that anyway. You can’t force your body to do anything. You can allow it. The point is to heal the wounds that made the weight necessary.

and then trust your body to find its authentic size, whatever that may be. There’s only one very rare exception that I was debating whether to put into this episode or not, but it’s the truth, so I’m gonna put it in and speak directly to those of you that are like, my God, that’s me, when it’s actually not. Because there is something, again, it’s very, very rare.

Something that I’ve only seen once, the people that are like, but what if I’m one of those people who can never feel full? What if my hunger is broken at a genetic level? There are extremely rare, and I want to emphasize those words, extremely rare, genetic conditions such as, I need to, I had to research the technical term for this, which is a more reading game, trying to get it pronounced correctly, such as congenital.

leptin deficiency, their mutations in the MC4R gene or Prader-Willi syndrome, my inner child was like, huh, Willie, where the body’s hunger and satiety signalling is genuinely disrupted at a genetic level. These conditions are discussed in books like The Secret Life of Fat, that was an interesting read, and are well documented in medical literature.

Victoria Kleinsman (19:04.514)
but here’s what I want you to know about these conditions. They are exceptionally rare. We’re talking about a tiny percentage of the population here. Most people, I would say 100%, if not 99.9 % of people listening to this do not have one of these conditions because if you do have one of these conditions that I’ve just spoken about, they present from very early childhood, right from the get-go of your life, basically.

If you have a genetic hunger regulation disorder, you would have experienced insatiable hunger from the moment you started drinking milk and eating solid foods as a baby, as your existence, because you need food and milk to survive. Well, milk first and then obviously food. This is not something that develops in your teens or in your twenties or after years of dieting or restricting. This is present from the very beginning of your existence.

So the presentation is distinct. Children with these conditions often exhibit extreme food-seeking behaviors as early as toddlerhood when they can move around themselves. Getting up in the night to raid the fridge, eating non-food items, yes, even that, showing distress that’s only soothed by eating, and parents typically notice something is significantly different from very early on.

and they require specialized medical management. And if you genuinely have one of these genetic conditions, you need proper medical diagnosis and support, not diet culture, not restriction, but actual genetic testing and appropriate medical intervention. And here’s why this matters. is, listen up to this point. Well, listen up to all of it, but really listen to this part, what I’m gonna share now. Your eating disorder,

wants you to believe that you are this exception. It wants you to grasp on to the idea that maybe you’re one of these rare cases, so you have permission to keep restricting, to keep controlling, to keep fighting your body because otherwise you will end up gaining weight forever and ever and ever. But the reality is, if you developed an eating disorder or weight concerns,

Victoria Kleinsman (21:26.51)
in your teens or as you’re coming into your teens from the age of like nine, 10, 11 or later, if your hunger intensified after years of dieting and restricting, if you can remember a time when food wasn’t all consuming, you almost certainly do not have a genetic hunger regulation disorder. Now, I know there’s still gonna be some people who are like, oh my God, but I remember from when I was so young, I was like obsessed with.

food and sugar and I was hiding food and things like that. But were your parents restricting you from food that you just wanted to eat freely? Were your parents dieting and restricting? Like did you learn that behaviour and learn that food was scarce so it was something to kind of have in secret? That is different that if you were being restricted or if you were around restriction, that is different than if you have a literal genetic hunger regulation disorder where you’ll never fall.

So even though I started dieting from the age of nine, I remember a time where food was just like a normal part of life. I always had a thing about my body because I learned that through conditioning, but I just do remember not really consciously, but I do know there was a time when food was just kind of food where I just felt full and not like I always wanted to keep eating. So I just want to hammer home to the part of you that is like, my God, I’m the exception. Most likely you’re not, okay?

What you likely have is a completely normal and healthy hunger response that’s been amplified by restriction. When you restrict physically, mentally or emotionally, your body cranks up hunger signals, your brain becomes obsessed with food, you feel like you can never get full and it feels exactly like that broken hunger regulation. But it’s not, it’s not broken, it’s working perfectly, really.

because your body is screaming at you to eat because you’ve been depriving it. So before you decide you’re the exception, ask yourself, was I like this as a very young child before any dieting or restriction? Did this hunger intensify after periods of restriction? Can I remember a time, even if it’s kind of an unconscious knowing, when food didn’t dominate my thoughts all day, every day?

Victoria Kleinsman (23:53.428)
If the answer is yes to the last two questions, your hunger regulation is not broken, it’s not genetically disordered, it’s responding exactly as it should to deprivation. And even if on the very incredibly slim chance that you do have one of these genetic conditions, restriction is still not the answer. These conditions require compassionate medical management, not…

punishment through food deprivation and sure as hell not the skinny job that’s going around. So now I want to address living in your body right now, if you do have or you do live in a large or a very large body, so you’re eating on restrictedly hopefully, or you will after you’ve listened to this, whatever it may be, and maybe you do have a naturally very large body as your natural set point weight.

And then that can bring up a lot of emotions and feelings because how the fuck is that fair? I hear you say. You know, this is why we need to bring so much compassion and also be real and meet you where you’re at. So this often gets left out of conversations. If you are in a larger body and certain physical tasks are genuinely difficult, that’s real and it deserves compassion and not shame.

Maybe tying your shoelaces is hard if your belly’s in the way. Maybe getting up from the floor is challenging. Maybe fitting into aeroplane seats or restaurant booths is uncomfortable. And maybe you get out of breath more easily than you’d like to. And the eating disorder voice will use this and say, see, you need to lose weight, you can’t live like this. But what real recovery actually looks like is meeting yourself exactly where you are.

in the body you have right now with love and compassion for yourself. This means getting a sock tool or a shoe tool that helps you to put your shoes on without bending down, buying the larger furniture that’s comfortable for your body, at least when you have control of that at home, asking for a seatbelt extender on the plane without shame. I know that’s really hard, but this is the goal. Using mobility aids if they make your life easier.

Victoria Kleinsman (26:15.946)
modifying activities to work with your current body, not against it, and making your home and life as accessible as possible for the body you have today. This isn’t giving up, this is radical self-love. Because here’s the thing, restriction won’t make these things easier. Restriction will make you weaker, more tired, more mentally consumed and obsessed by food, and ultimately trapped in a cycle that keeps you stuck.

that you’re most likely in at the moment. But treating your body with kindness, adapting your environment to work for you, that creates a space for real healing and a lot of compassion is needed. So you need to mourn the loss and this is what I’m gonna go into now. There’s a grief that comes with this. And listen, I’m not gonna pretend this is easy and I don’t speak from personal experience in terms of being in a larger body where…

I physically have challenges to get around and to tie shoelaces and things like that, but it’s not, I did have to do a shitload of grieving around my previous thinner body, what it brought me in terms of social capital and safety and power and desirability to men. had to grieve all of that, losing that and grieve the safety it brought me. So I’m not going to pretend that this is easy.

There’s grief here, especially for those in a very large body who naturally end up in a very large body. This grief is real for everybody, no matter what size body, and it’s valid. It needs to be witnessed and felt. So you might be grieving the body you wish you had. You might be grieving the ease of movement you remember or that you imagine or wish to have. You might be grieving the privilege of moving through the world in a smaller body.

the activities that felt harder or impossible right now, and the life you thought that you’d be living in a smaller body and all that comes with that. That grief is allowed. You can grieve your preference for a smaller, easier to live in body, while simultaneously accepting and caring for the body you have. These two things can coexist, grief and acceptance. Sadness and self-love.

Victoria Kleinsman (28:37.698)
wishing things were different and working with what is. The difference between recovery and the eating disorder is this. The eating disorder uses that grief as a fuel for self-destruction. Recovery allows you to feel that grief while still treating yourself with dignity and care. You don’t have to be grateful for a body that feels difficult to live in. You don’t have to love every role and every curve.

or celebrate being plus size if you think that’s not authentic vid, the true you. You just have to stop punishing yourself for it. You just have to stop using restriction as a weapon against your own body. You just have to meet yourself where you are with compassion instead of cruelty. And then I hear people say, what about health? Okay, get all of that Victoria, and I hope, I really hope that you do.

But what about health? What about diabetes, high blood pressure, joint pain? Are you saying we should just ignore health for people who are obese? No, but what I am saying is we should redefine what health actually means. Health is not a number on the scale. I’m gonna take a sip of my drink and tell you what I think health is.

Health is having energy to do the things you love, sleeping well, managing stress effectively, having stable moods, moving your body in ways that feel good, having healthy, connected relationships, including the one with yourself, living without constant food obsession, feeling safe in your body. All of these things and more improve when you stop restricting.

Yes, even if your weight increases, because the restriction itself is what’s destroying your health. I can think of even just one client off the top of my head. She came to me wanting to give up dieting and the whole binge diets restrict cycle. Her doctor advised her to lose weight because she had high blood pressure. And all she did was come to me, eat with complete freedom, reduce her stress and the blood.

Victoria Kleinsman (30:57.08)
pressure went down, the doctor was like, you must be doing something right. And I think her weight also increased, but her blood pressure came down from the lack of stress, from constantly trying to restrict and then binging and the lack of shame that we were working through and just stress in general, the blood pressure improved. So it’s not causational, it’s correlating, know what I mean? So here’s what we know from research, behaviors.

I’ve talked about this before in a, I think I did an episode called, what about health? Behaviors predict health outcomes far better than weight does. A person in a larger body who eats varied foods from a place of pleasure and nourishment, moves joyfully, manages stress and has strong social connections will likely be healthier than a thin person who restricts, overexercises,

lives in chronic stress and is socially isolated. It’s just a fact. So the fear underneath the question we need to dive into, when you ask, what about larger bodies? What you’re really asking is, am I allowed to trust my body? What if I never stopped gaining weight? What if everyone was right about me? What if I’m fundamentally flawed or broken somehow? And these are questions of someone who’s been taught that their body is the enemy, sadly.

Someone who’s told that their hunger is wrong. Someone who spent years, maybe decades trying to shrink themselves to be acceptable. And I want you to hear this, your body is not the problem. The system that taught you to hate it is the problem. What recovery actually looks like in a larger body is the same as recovery for anybody else. You honor your hunger, all of it, mental,

physical hunger, even if it feels extreme, even if you gain weight, even if people comment, even if your doctor disapproves. You stop compensating. No restriction, no excessive exercise, no purging, no diet foods, no making up for what you’ve eaten. You do the deeper work. Trauma healing, inner child’s work, nervous system regulation, shame healing.

Victoria Kleinsman (33:20.152)
because the eating disorder was never about the food in the first place. It was always about the pain underneath. You work with the protection. If your body is using weight as an armor, and you don’t know if it is or not, right? This is just something that you will find out in hindsight when you’ve recovered. If your body is using weight as an armor, you don’t need to try and rip that armor off. You can’t. You heal the wounds underneath so your body feels safe enough to release it if…

and when it’s ready. You practice body neutrality. You don’t have to love your body. You don’t even have to stop liking. You don’t have to like your body. You just have to stop being at war with your body. Your body is your home. It’s not your battleground. It’s not your foe. It’s your friend. Treat it so. You adapt your life to your current body with compassion, with tools.

with accommodations, with love, not as a temporary measure until you fix your body, but as an act of kindness to yourself and the body you have right now. You allow the grief. You let yourself feel sad about what’s really hard. You let yourself wish things were different and then you still choose self-care over self-destruction anyway. And you give it time. Recovery is not linear.

Weight restoration, whether up or down, can take months or years. Your body needs time to trust that the famine is over and that you’re truly safe now and living in abundance. And there’s the truth about being too far gone. And this is a fear that many people have. Maybe I’m too far gone. Maybe my metabolism is too damaged. Maybe I’ve been fat for too long or maybe I’ve been underweight for too long. Maybe I’m the exception. You’re not.

You are not the exception. I’ve worked with women across the full spectrum of body sizes. I’ve seen recovery happen in body society would call morbidly obese. I’ve watched my metabolism’s heal. I’ve witnessed set point weight settle. I’ve seen health markers improve. Like I said, even when weight is increased and that’s just one example I get, there are many more. I’ve also witnessed something profound.

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Women whose bodies release significant weight once the underlying trauma healed, was healed. And their nervous systems finally felt safe, not through restriction, not because it’s better to lose weight, just through safety. And that’s what naturally happened. And remember your body wants to heal. It’s been waiting for you to start fighting it and start listening to what it’s trying to tell you. So what this means practically is,

If you’re in a large body reading this, listening to this, here’s what I want you to know. Your hunger, number one, your hunger is valid. It doesn’t matter how much you weigh. If you’re hungry, you need to eat. Your body is not lying to you. Number two, weight gain might be part of your healing and that’s okay. Your body knows what it’s doing even when your brain is terrified. Number three,

You cannot heal from restriction whilst restricting. There’s no gentle way to starve yourself back to health. Trust me, I’ve tried. Number four, your body might be protecting you and that protection is valid. The work is healing the wounds, not forcing your body to change. Number five, you’re almost certainly not the genetic exception. If your hunger intensified after dieting,

your body is responding normally to deprivation. Number six, it’s okay to make life easier for yourself. Adaptive tools are not failure, they’re kindness, use them without shame. Number seven, you are allowed to grieve, in fact, it’s necessary to grieve. You can wish your body was different while still caring for it beautifully. Number eight,

Your worth is not determined by your size. You don’t have to earn the right to exist in your body. You do not have to shrink to be acceptable. And number nine, you deserve recovery. Not when you’re thinner, not when you’re healthier, not when life gets easy. Right now in the body you’re in today. So the real question isn’t, but what about very large bodies? The question is, how long?

Victoria Kleinsman (38:13.622)
are you going to let fear of fatness keep you from living your life? Because that’s what it’s really about. The fear that if you let go of control, you’ll become the thing society has taught you to fear the most. The fear that your body left to its own devices will betray you. But your body isn’t the betrayer. The betrayal is the system that taught you your body was wrong in the first place. So my invitation to you,

If you’re in a larger body and you’re terrified of unrestricted eating, I get it. The fear is real, the stigma is real. And again, I don’t speak from personal experience. I speak from professional experience and just from my intuition and general empathy and compassion. The medical bias is real. The physical challenges are real. But you know what else is real? Your suffering.

And so is possibility of freedom. That’s also very real. Recovery is available to you, not despite your body size, but regardless of it. Your body deserves to be fed. Your hunger deserves to be honored. Your life deserves to be lived. Your current needs deserve to be met with compassion and not more punishment. You’ve had enough of that, haven’t you? Not when you’re smaller, but now.

So if you are ready to stop letting the fear of your body size keep you trapped in the restrict binge cycle that you might be in, I’d love to support you. Whether that be through my group coaching, which actually has significantly reduced in the investment. So the investment now for a year is 495 and you get access to hundreds of hours of previous coaching calls.

loads of hours of Q &A’s, like video Q &A’s, me answering the questions that you will have because those of us that think our question is unique, it’s not. We all have the same kind of questions and I answer it so they’ll be your questions I’ll be answering. All of my programs, the Body Love Binge is my signature program. That alone will take you six months to go through. There’s so many extra resources in there. It’s like a gold mine. It will take you about a year to go through the whole program, which is why it’s…

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it’s available to you for a whole year and you can cancel your subscription at any time. Or if that’s not for you, you can join my free support group where I do do monthly hot seat coaching for free. And there’s a library that’s being built up of previous hot seat coaching calls. So you can check them out. And if you want personalized one-to-one support on your journey to recovery from anorexia or bulimia or bingy tingle, orthorexia or…

Whatever eating disorder you have, whatever body image you have, whatever past trauma you’ve endured and experienced, I can support you. One-to-one is the most deepest, obviously the most closest way of working with me. You can check everything out on my website. If you have a question for the podcast, like I said, it will be at the bottom of every email I send, also on my Instagram stories, on my highlight reel, you’ll see there’s a link to a form you can ask a question for the podcast.

and I’ll create an episode out of your question or I’ll answer a question at the end of every solo episode so I can keep getting through them. So thank you for listening. Thank you for being with me as I’ve done a solo episode, which I haven’t done for so long. Feels good to just sit and chat with you. And that’s it really. Love you very much. The episode that is coming out in two weeks, boy, wait for that one. That is a guest episode from one of my clients who has completely recovered.

from extreme OCD and anorexia and mental health issues and is living her best fucking life. And she’s only 20 years old still. So get ready for that. And yeah, much love. Thanks for being here. And if you haven’t left to review, please do so. It really helps get my podcast out there. Much love.